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1. What is your interpretation of vulnerability?
Being able to tell the truth despite knowing you could be attacked, knowing that no one might choose to trust you, as that could put their position in harm. Being vulnerable, to me, could also mean sharing your emotional state with someone, where someone may end up judging you or even using it against you.
“In one word, vulnerability is a roller-coaster”
This is my first time talking about my vulnerability on a social media platform. Let’s see what happens…
2. Can you tell us about a time when you were vulnerable in the workplace?
The thing about me is, if something is not right, I have to say it. But over time, I have learnt to say it in a better way. I am more careful with my choice of words and people’s emotions and state of mind.
As Swami Vivekanada said: “Truth can be stated in a thousand different ways, yet each one can be true”.
3. What happened?
I won’t name which company, but let’s just say I was the “whistle blower” of a certain situation that was ongoing for quite a long period of time. No one was bringing it up, but it was effecting my portfolio due to someone else’s wrong doing. I would end up working thrice harder just to ensure I managed to mitigate the risk. I ended up being burnt out and hence chose to voice it out.
Unfortunately, at that time I did not realize I was just being a pawn; or perhaps a bait. At the same time, my mom’s health was going down hill. I didn’t want to be involved with the drama that was going on at the workplace and ended up taking a sabbatical leave. The mental and emotional pressure was just too high and I knew I had reached a dead end. The top management was not in favor of me, rather took sides with a person that they should least trust. Why they choose to trust him? I do not know. But it is sad when management does not investigate and picks sides, without knowing the whole truth.
4. Do you regret it?
I do not regret it, but I miss working or even being in that lifestyle, where I had the opportunity to meet world class opinion leaders, managing a large region and creating useful clinical content, so that the sales team could leverage on it.
“(…) set the game right from the beginning and you will be admired for being you”
But yes, this incident has made me a little paranoid about people. So yes, I am more careful now with whom I speak to. I do not allow myself to be burnt out. My health and wellbeing come first now, as only then I can contribute to any organization effectively.
5. Nowadays, do you consider that being true to yourself and others is a sign of weakness/ vulnerability or strength? And why?
I read this book, by Stephen Covey, where he said: “You choose the lens on how you would want to see others”. I think it takes a lot of courage to being true to yourself. It is quite easy to be pretentious but – overtime – people would be able to see it; and when they do, you will completely lose their trust.
But when you set the game right from the beginning, you will be admired for being you, for being able to be vulnerable, as it takes grit to do that. People may not tell you directly, but somehow the news will come to you. “The only real failure in life is not to be true to the best one knows” (Buddha
6. How did your experience with vulnerability influence your current state of mind? Would you recommend others to talk about it?
You need to be prepared for backfire. Have a contingency plan or, at least, be emotionally strong to swallow things up if it goes wrong. I would say: follow your heart and do what is right for your soul!
“My health and wellbeing come first”
7. If you can sum up in 1 word how you feel about your experience with vulnerability what would it be?
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