How hard can it be to make up your mind? Furthermore, how hard is it to respect your own decision, especially if this combats the will of others?
There are times in life when making a decision, though you know it’s for the best, seems to be the hardest thing you’ll ever have to face. That’s why is important to take your time when you need to make a life-changing decision. Never rush! Never take the step upon anger! You counterbalance all pros and cons, to get a real weight of all of them. Now, tell me, what weights heavier: good moments (that may have been plenty), or the bad times that, even if fewer, drag the scale below understanding? What about forgiveness? But wait, forgiving has nothing to do with a well-scaled decision. You can forgive someone, and still know you will be better off without them. As well as you can love and walk away…
It may seem a paradox, but yes, even if you love, you can still walk away. Especially if it’s toxic. And toxic relationships affect your peace of mind. Big time! Ending a likewise relationship (that you thrived to keep alive, but harms you – reveals the worst out of you) should be anything but wrong! People will judge you, ’cause that’s what they do best. They will label, ’cause that’s what they enjoy the most. More disappointing? Even your closest ones. Especially them! Nevertheless, it’s YOU that you should consider first! This is not selfish. This is mercy for your own self. If you think is good for you, then it is. And Remember: every end is a new beginning!
OK, I’ll admit there’s a tiny part of regret. But is it really for you or for the other? Or for both?
In fact, you pity the other for his human status. For the fact that you know they might be suffering. Even if you’ve been feeling the same along the way. However, be brave and think it through, objectively. Be strong enough to understand that their despair is not yours to carry, but theirs. Be compassionate enough to understand those moments they’re facing. You’ve been there yourself. Don’t be selfish, but don’t put yourself down for making that decision. You need to be strong enough to keep it, because you realize it’s for your own good.
Now, what about the regret you feel for you? Is it because you are a bit afraid to face what’s next, on our own? Because you see this as the greatest challenge of your life? If yes, think again. Moreover, think if you didn’t feel this way while you were still in that relationship. Were you carrying everything on your own? Were you the one responsible with decisions? If so, let it be the same now. You have nothing to fear! It will be just the same, but in a more relaxed environment. So, go for it! Don’t lose your way! Trust yourself! And… Everything is going to be alright!